Following up from the honor of being selected in Huffington Posts Top 12 Global Education Blogs of 2014/2015 I have been chosen again in this amazing group and for 2016/2017 will be contributing to Huffington Post’s Education blog once a month. This month we look at the following highly controversial topic “What do Teachers Most Want to Tell Parents” – here is my response:
As both an educator and a parent I get to experience both sides of this on a daily basis, with a lot more experience on the teaching side than the parent side.
“Effective parenting refers to carrying out the responsibilities of raising and relating to children in such a manner that the child is well prepared to realize his or her full potential as a human being. It is a style of raising children that increase the chances of a child becoming the most capable person and adult he or she can be.” Dr. Kerby T. Alvy.
One thing both parents and teachers have in common is that they genuinely want the best for their children, although this is not always seen as a common understanding.
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In my attempt to answer this question I reached out to my friends, my colleagues, and my PLN, collating my ideas and those mentioned above to conclude on my top 10 things I want to tell parents. Here is my list:
Top 10 things I want to tell parents:
- TRUST – Thank you for trusting me and supporting me! Your support and trust is the most empowering and affirming thing you can give me!
- TESTING – I hate testing too – we are sick of standardized testing and having to “teach to a test”. I do everything I can to change this but sometimes my hands are tied.
- GET OUT – It is extremely hard for the children to focus on their learning while you are in the classroom. Leave them in my care – trust me, I’ve got this. Your child may be the center of your universe but I have to share mine with 25 others.
- INSPIRING – It has been a pleasure spending this year with your child! They inspire me!
- MANNERS – I notice your child’s manners and I know it is a true reflection of yours.
- MEMORIES – The students I remember and I write in my ‘book’ at the end of the year are happy, respectful, and good-hearted, not necessarily the ones with the highest grades.
- TIME – My job is not 9-3! I work extremely LONG hours – please respect me and my profession – I will always do right by you and your child.
- LIES – The truth is simple – your child will lie to get out of trouble.
- HOMEWORK – It is for your child, not for you – I can tell the difference between a parent helping their child and doing it for them. Let them fail if necessary – I WILL help them! But please check that they have done it.
- MISTAKES – Let your child make mistakes – I know you mean well, but please stop doing everything for your child and allow them to make mistakes. How else will they learn? Children are often not motivated to succeed because they feel you will bail them out every time.
Teachers are educated professionals who work with children every day. I will often see your child in a different light than you do. If I give you advice, don’t fight it. Take it, and use it in the same way you would consider advice from a doctor or lawyer. I have become used to parents who refuse to listen and take on my advice about their child, but sometimes if you’re willing to take my advice to heart, it can help you with issues that could become much worse in the future.
What are the things you most want to tell your parents? Share them on Social Media and below in the comments #TeacherTellsParents